WILD. WORTHY. UNAPOLOGETIC.
WILD. WORTHY. UNAPOLOGETIC.
Show up in your own damn life.
For burned-out women who want to stop faking fine, Nicole Hate is the anti-nice-girl coach that helps you take up space without apology.
Take up space like you were never taught to shrink.
Want to stop shrinking in rooms you built? Want to speak up, sprawl out, and take up emotional real estate like you f*cking mean it? You don’t need more confidence. You need permission to show up like it was always yours. This is where you get it — unapologetic, loud, and finally real. (Even if you’ve been saying “I’m fine” for 15 years straight.)
Unlearn everything you’ve been taught.
From the good girl rules to the martyr complex, we strip it all down — the guilt, the shrinking, the constant performing and rebuild your life around what actually feels true. This isn’t surface-level pep talks or Pinterest mantras. It’s weekly gut-punches, guided reclamation, and coaching that helps you choose yourself, one “hell no” at a time.
Because you can’t reclaim your power until you burn the script they gave you…and babe, I brought the matches.
Get your fire back.
The one they told you to tone down. The one you buried under politeness, productivity, and pretending to be okay. This is where you remember what it feels like to move through the world with both feet on the ground, your voice in your throat, and your hell no fully intact. No more faking fine. No more shrinking. Just you, on full volume.
You don’t have to become someone else to feel whole.
You’re not a self-improvement project. You don’t need a 27-step morning routine. You’ve just been surviving in systems that never made space for who you really are. This work isn’t about fixing, it’s about returning. To your voice. Your power. Your truth. One breath at a time.
MEET YOUR GUIDE
I’m Nicole
Nicole Hate is the creator of Nervous System Resurrection™, a radical approach to nervous system liberation for high-achieving, midlife women who are done faking fine and ready to stop living like a checklist in Spanx. She’s the host of the Midlife Moxie with Nicole Hate podcast a no-bullshit, gut-level conversation series for women who are tired of apologizing for wanting more and the upcoming author of You Were Never Meant To Be Good, a soul-scorching book for every woman who’s ever been rewarded for disappearing.
Her work blends nervous system healing, belief deprogramming, and full-on identity reclamation — for women who are done performing and ready to live like they matter. And for those brave enough to go deeper, she offers Gene Keys explorations: a soul-mapping experience for decoding your emotional DNA and come home to the self they've been exiled from. It’s not therapy. It’s not coaching. It’s liberation, one sacred “hell no” at a time.
When she’s not helping women rage, rest, and rise from the wreckage of their own people-pleasing, you’ll find her in rural Pennsylvania running a full-blown emotional revolution from a town with more cows than cafes, where she writes, coaches, and occasionally swears at the patriarchy between coffee refills.
THE FIRST RITE:This isn’t burnout. It’s misalignment.
THE SECOND RITE:THE PATTERN INTERRUPT
One sacred hour to strip the mask and meet your next identity.
THE THIRD RITE:
Subscribe to the weekly rites.
No fluff. Just fire.
The Patterns You
Were Never Meant To Name
THE EXODUS CODEX™
This isn’t self-help. This is soul recognition. You don’t need clarity — you need to remember who you were before the performance.
🌀 The Exit Loop™
You fantasize about walking away — from your job, your marriage, your curated, goddamn exhausting life.
But you never do.
Because your worth has always been welded to staying, fixing, enduring.
You’re not stuck.
You’re still performing survival.
👁🗨 The Vanishing Woman™
You’ve been “the calm one.”
The reliable one. The selfless one.
Until one morning, you look in the mirror and can’t find the woman staring back.
This isn’t burnout.
It’s a spiritual disappearance.
💢 Permission Fatigue™
You know what you want.
You’ve circled it in journals, whispered it in meditations, flirted with it in dreams.
But you keep waiting for the green light — from a coach, a calendar, a cosmic memo.
You’re not unclear.
You’re just exhausted from asking.
🔁 The Identity Echo™
You try to change.
You swear this time is different.
But then? She shows up — the past version of you that knows how to please, perform, survive.
You’re not evolving. You’re echoing.
Not sure where you belong?
You don’t need to pick a path yet.
You just need to name what’s been running your life.
The Threshold Session is where we start.
No pressure. No performance.
Just the truth, spoken clearly — and a mirror that finally feels safe.
→ Start here
Choose Your Return
One meets you in your everyday unraveling — the roles you can’t escape, the exhaustion you can’t explain, the rage you swallow to keep the peace.
The other reveals the blueprint beneath it all — the sacred pattern behind your pain, the soul map you never learned to read.
Both lead to liberation. Start where you are.
Rewrite My Story
For the woman who’s high-functioning on the outside but fractured on the inside.
This is identity reclamation through integrative coaching, somatic work, and subconscious rewiring.
You won’t become someone new.
You’ll finally come home to who you’ve always been.
Unlock My Soul Code
For the seeker who’s outgrown every surface-level answer.
This is sacred decoding through Gene Keys soul mapping, intuitive reflection, and blueprint integration.
You’re not confused.
You’re being called.
Let’s translate the message.
WHAT I STAND FORYou’re not late. You’re not broken.
You’re just finally done contorting yourself into a life that looks good and feels like a prison.
If you’re still reading this, you’re ready.
Begin the Exodus.
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"I highly praise the unique and holistic approach of Nicole's coaching, which combines change work and the Gene Keys. Nicole emphasized the transformative and enlightening experience, highlighting how the session helped me overcome subconscious blocks, provided insightful guidance, and revealed deep self-understanding. I commend Nicole for her empathy, expertise, and personalized guidance making a significant impact on the journey of self-discovery and personal growth."
Renee
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"The sessions with Nicole really blew my mind. I had never heard about Gene Keys, and after these sessions so many things made sense to me. I highly recommend her for this work."
Amy
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"Nicole! Today's session has me shook to the core!!! My notes from today's session feel like gentle, kind reminders to myself for where I'm going and how to get there. I left our call with goosebumps! It was really really an incredibly transformational hour for me and I just wanted to say thank you! You are so incredible and I'm sooo glad to have found you."
Ashley
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